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fanwmYou want to know more about me.

I’m told I don’t act how a dominatrix is expected to; I am not cold or callous. I put people new to the scene at ease. I’m also told I make people uncomfortable; my natural intelligence and preternatural knowledge intimidate some people. The way I think, quickly and quietly, makes them nervous. Both of these impressions are accurate: I’m an affable companion and an ineffable manipulatrix.

I’m hardly a femme fatale, though. I don’t enjoy bringing people down but building them up by sharing my extensive understanding of sexuality. I can’t tell you with a straight face, out of scene, that you are pathetic for wanting to lick my feet when I prefer discussing theories of fetishism from the Freudian to the neurological.  I have an undergraduate degree in gender and sexuality studies and a graduate degree in a mental health field, a wide range of queer and kinky friends, a personal penchant for BDSM and experimentation, and a drive to teach and to learn about these passions that make us peculiarly human. My day job is at an LGBT community center (yes, I’m bisexual) where my duties include designing psychoeducational community programming. I see professional kink as a complimentary outlet for my desires to understand and to express so many fantastically complicated facets of human sexuality.

I’ve worked hard to make it so. This is my 8th year as a BDSM provider and my first year where it is not my major form of income, so I am now able to prioritize the most exciting scenes and compatible scene partners. My preferences have nothing to do with experience level, race, gender, (dis)ability, religion or age (provided you are at least 21!) but hinge on kindness and courtesy, curiosity about kink, and a commitment to exploring the darker side of desire in a conscientious way.

I have a particular fondness for those just acknowledging their submissive desires; for fetishists with specific requests; for veteran Daddy Dom/mes, sensation players, and rope tops in need of an eager bottom; for long-time role-players who want to take their scenes to another level; and for experienced submissives who want to explore the psychological and sensate intricacies of pain and restraint instead of merely enduring them.

If you’d like to know more, keep clicking through the photos on the home page, or read what others have to say about me.  If you’d like to see more, check out my gallery of recent photos here. And if you’re wondering what I’m like in action, my virtual options are a great place to get a better idea before committing to in-person play.

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